Hello, my gist mates.
Long time no see, how has been your week? Mine was quite eventful, from having light issues, watching movies, trying to penetrate the tiktok space, attending Smirnoff concert by weekend which has not really gone well with me because I have been unnecessary hunger since that concert ended but hopefully I get back myself. I also have 6 outing that I am looking forward to next weekend but of course I wont be attending all of them because I don't have a car. I would have to prioritize and save up for car towards next year.
Attending these events trigger this post about bonding. How do you bond with people as an individual? What are the things you do or share with people that you trust? For some it may be sharing of food, going to parties together, shopping together etc. Personally, I don't like to share my stuff with anyone so if I give you access to my stuffs, I can classify it as bonding with you.
One of the ways I bonded with my mum growing up was through making her hair, she does mine too and those are the times we share gist and be safe space to each other. My mum likes her hair being played with that anytime she wants to sleep she calls me to play with her hair, either by combing it or making cornrows and that woman hair was healthy. I have also pass that hair bonding to my sister because I actually want it to be a family ritual. Whenever she's coming home, I make sure my hair is out for her to play with and I also help with her hair and we get to unwind while at it.
We also do a lot of bonding by trying new recipe together, watching movies and sharing our thoughts while at it, we make jest of each other before outsider make jest of us, we share secrets and we also hype ourselves up. We don't bond over suffering, we rather pay to ease our stress.
Bonding play a big part on ones memory because when you are no more, one of the things you remember for are those bonds you share with people. One of the ways I am bonding with y'll is to share my experience and gist with you because I don't want to be quickly forgotten whenever its time for me to live.
Song for the Anchovy by Kizz Daniel
