'Clap along, if you know what happiness means to you'
Do what makes you happy, they say but they will still want to project their definition of happiness on you.
Happiness is what ever makes you happy. We have a lot of societal conditioning where people believe if you don't have some sort of achievement at a certain age then you can never be happy while forgetting assumption is the father of all fuckups. LOL
I have never paid any bill even down to my buying my under-wears while growing up and now that I am single and can afford to pay my bills, it makes me happy just being a responsible adult plus when I see good food my joy is filled. I also want more from life but that does not mean that I am unhappy where I am.
I have friends that have achieved more than i have in terms of what the society call achievements (cars, houses, marriage, kids etc.) but because I don't have those yet doesn't invalidate my happiness.
For some, happiness is affording 3square meals while some Vacation, shopping at high end stores, living in Nigeria, having their family, seeing their family comfortable, Good health, change of wardrobe, hanging out with friends, owning a pair of good shoes and clothes, migrating, promotion at work, good sex, watching their family achieve a milestone, etc.
I remember my dad always coming home with ;Brighter Grammar' and just watch me read, It makes him happy. He would rather save money to buy me books to improve my vocabulary than take me out for Ice-cream, the Irony there is we are only permitted to read in English not communicate in it.
While my mum made sure we wore the best among our peers no matter how much it cost, she would get it. It makes her happy that we were able to stand out among our peers. However happiness is different from responsibilities and vices. Lets get that out of the way.
When my friends discuss with me, the first thing I want to know is if it makes them happy no matter how stupid their decisions are because I understand that their definition of happiness is different from mine.
I tell most people that I am not interested in saving up money to own an apartment, I will rather spend my money vacationing and knowing new place instead of tying it down somewhere because the society thinks if your mates are achieving and you are not then you will be miserable.
I grew up in our own apartment and I guess that's why owning a house doesn't matter to me, I am also never telling someone that want to own their house that they are unhappy for wanting that. Happiness differs, what makes me happy might just be basic to you plus what make one happy last year may change this year.
Life is a teacher, whatever we achieve here on earth is what will remain when we are gone.
My definition of happiness is, seeing my immediate family in good health, taking pictures of my fine self and I'm working towards being famous, I really don't care about anything else. I just want to be known before I leave this earth so that I can collect my flowers while I am sill here.
Happiness is cheap as long as you are true to yourself, I repeat 'YOURSELF'. We cannot all achieve all we want before we die, we would lack in some and have excess in some, so calm down and enjoy the ones you have achieved, be happy in that instead of being sad with the one you are lacking.
Sometimes, I tell myself if Nolly-wood movies are real where one will die and the spirit leaves the body to stand by it side, would I be laughing that I prioritize my happiness or would I be regretting that I lived for the validation of others instead of doing things that makes me happy.
I am admonishing you today to go out there and work towards all that makes you happy without neglecting your responsibilities because at the end of it all, You are the only one that got you. I don't want you to grow older when you are fragile and regret not doing this that makes you happy.
I would leave you with Pharrell Williams-Happy.
Be kind to let me know those little things that makes you happy in the comment box.
Thanks for reading,
I love you.
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