I would like to specially greet those of us that live alone, It isn't easy. A lot of us have a way of masking it as the best thing after salvation but I would not recommend till you are 27years old. I am not talking about living alone as a student, the taste is actually difference and the difference is in the taste. I am talking of living alone as a responsible individual.
I wish I read an article like this before I made decision of leaving my parent to stay alone and even if I stumbled on something like this, I would still go ahead on my decision because 'I get coconut head and I no dey hear word'
Living alone can actually make you lazy and very comfortable because here you are, not accountable to anybody. You are very close to be reckless and useless living alone, the only thing that can help you is your background. If you grew up with a 'train up a child the way he should go' you may avoid being reckless by a wing.
The first thing that comes to mind when people want to start living alone or hear you are living alone is FREEDOM. Freedom to do what you want, having only you to organize your life, go out and come back whenever you like, invite friends and party over night. Just do anyhow you like. What people fail to understand is that FREEDOM comes with its prize and the prize is mostly the emotional aspect of living alone.
Wait, you don't know?
Have you ever been drenched in rain and expecting to come home to someone/anyone that could just lighten your burden/mood and you open your door to an empty apartment where you are still responsible for yourself.
I remember staying with my parent in that situation, my mum or my sister would have welcomed me with a dry towel, collect my bags and help me unpack and I would also have hot food waiting for me but I threw that care away for freedom.
Have you ever been in a dark moment and even if you didn't open your mouth to say anything, people around you would sense that you are not okay and If they are not asking, they are helping you lightening your mood in the little way they can. Living alone won't give you such liberty, when you are in the dark, you have only you to lighten your mood and for most people they just commit suicide because they believe that's the easiest way out.
Living alone largely affects ones mental health and I am talking from experience. Most of us living alone can stay for days without physically talking to people except for work reason and no matter how we deny It we need people, we can't do it all by ourselves. Human rely on each other for survival and this is one of the reasons we get married 'companionship'
You may know some people very wicked and aggressive and when the eventually get married, they tune that part of them down because they now have someone they can pour out their heart to instead of holding it all in everyday.
Bills is also one part that people don't talk about on this topic. Splitting bills is so cheap especially when you do it with someone responsible, Living alone is actually expensive and that means, you have to pay for light bills, buy groceries, pay internet bills, repair things in the house by yourself or call someone to do it, and calling someone to repair stuff in your house as a lady is another risk on its own. Men are just out there wanting to take advantages of women. I would be writing how I was molested by my gen repairer on this blog soon.
If you are sexually active too, I would advice you have a sexual stable partner because living alone can afford you making wrong decision when it comes to sexual partners.
Living alone is not something that i would not advise to be practised for long because anything after 5 years, it would be very hard to adjust back to living with human.
The things I love about living alone is the part that I can make decisions by myself, I can fail, wail and re-strategize without people judgement of me, I can succeed and celebrate in my corner, I am deaf to people expectation of me and just do me, I am 24hours my me time.
Living alone is actually what made me start this blog and It doesn't matter if I fail or succeed at it, I am just glad I have something to keep me busy while I struggle with life by the side.
Apart from the boredom that comes with living alone, Living alone is a 50-50 thing and one could die without being discovered for days. Sometimes I always think about what would happen If I slip in the bathroom and pass out or have an health emergency without help. I do take care or myself to avoid being a victim but it could happen and that's the end.
I would advice to live alone if you don't have any chronic health issues, If you are asthmatic please do not try it or make sure you are a people's person so that you can always have people looking for you. For someone like me that are not people's person, lets take care of our health and on days we can, we should socialize and talk to people as much as we can so we can have that space covered in our lives.
Signing out with '2face Only me'
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